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Remembering a loved one: 9 September victims

Remembering a loved one: 11 September victims
When a loved one has died we do not forget them. The memory of that person stays with us forever.

When a loved one has died in an accident the time it takes to get over the death is longer than if that person died of old age.

Today is 11 September and today I am thinking of the families of the victims who died 10 years ago today. On the internet there is much controversy about what happened on 11 September 2001 and who did what. There isn’t so much about the people who actually died and their families, so today I want you to know that if you lost a loved one in that tragic event, you are in my thoughts.

Remembering a loved one: 11 September victims
As part of the grieving process it is important to talk about the person who has died because this helps to keep the memories of them real. It stops that person becoming either forgotten or idolised, remembered only for the things we didn’t do for them, for our regrets. In remembering a loved one, we remember the good and the bad things about them. The memories are more balanced, more real. It is good just to refer to them in general conversation with other people, as you would another member of the family.

Not only is this a good thing in itself, it is also reassuring to children as they understand that the loved one is not forgotten. It allows them to know that dying is part of the life cycle, and that remembering a loved one is part of that because it is through our memories that that person lives on.

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Find out about the stages of grieving: Why am I angry?

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Find out about the stages of grieving: Why am I angry?

After a loved one dies, we go through the stages of grieving:

5 Stages of Grieving

1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance

Every person is different and will experience the different grieving stages to different extents.  Today we are looking at Why am I angry?  We may become angry after the death of a loved one because we weren’t ready to let them go.  This is particularly the case when the death is cause by accident or sudden illness and there has been no time to prepare for their dying.  In these situations we are angry because we have so many unanswered questions, because hopes and dreams have been lost, and and because we didn’t want them to die.

Experiencing such anger indicates a healthy processing of emotions.  However, it can also be detrimental to your physical and emotional wellbeing if it is not released in a healthy way.  You need to find ways to release the anger and come through to a place of forgiveness.

This article, Growing through the Anger of Grief and Loss by Lou LaGrand, is very helpful in explaining the relationship between anger and grief in more detail:

Growing Through the Anger of Grief and Loss

By Lou LaGrand

 

Anger is one of the most common emotions that surfaces when grief and loss have to be confronted. It is a normal human response if you feel abandoned, betrayed, disrespected or undeserving of the experience you are facing. It tells us we have to do something.

If you have been taught early in life that anger is a bad emotion or that only people with little or no self-control show their anger, it is quite likely that you will suppress or stuff this emotion deep inside. By keeping it within and sharing it with no one, you set yourself up to become depressed and may have to deal with the physical effects of another little understood emotion.

What can you do? How can you use your anger?

1. There is nothing wrong with becoming angry when dealing with loss and change. This is critical to understand for your mental health. And like any other emotion, it is wise to get to the bottom of your anger, pinpoint the source, and do every thing to resolve the problem. The key to defusing it is to try to understand why the situation developed. What is behind it all.

2. Resolving anger is in your best interests for a major reason: it takes a devastating toll on every cell in your body as well as your emotional disposition. For every thought and emotion we have the body has a physical counterpart. Your body will take the punishment of anger not only when you first deal with it-but each time you replay the anger-causing scene in your thoughts. That is extremely damaging.

3. Become aware that anger can be hidden or camouflaged in anxiety, sarcasm, jealousy, dependency, depression, withdrawal, fear, and feelings of frustration or abandonment. It is all about your ego. Become aware of whether or not you are repressing anger (consciously stuffing it within) or using it to cover up deeper fears or feelings.

4. Decide what you are specifically angry about. Find someone you trust to tell the specifics to and who will simply listen. Trying to resolve your anger is in your best interests and sharing it is one of the most therapeutic things you can do as you grieve. You are trying to clarify the specifics of your anger with your friend so you can do something about it. Make every effort to determine if you are holding on to your anger as a way to stay connected to the deceased.

5. Consider to what uses you can put your anger. Anger always has a purpose. Is it helping you understand your limits? Your desires? Your sadness? Your real friends? Your need for tolerance? Your deep love for the deceased? Allow anger to play a discovery role in your grief. Is it keeping you from accepting the death of your loved one? Take the time to think about the above questions as you choose to let go of your anger and use it to take advantage of creative ideas and insights.

6. Do something with anger. Staying angry and wanting revenge is resisting inevitable change. Resistance guarantees that anger will continue to persist and be problematical. Allow it to educate you and help cope with your loss. Then let it flow out.
Temporary fixes are to vent: exercise a release, shout, pound a pillow or tear something up. This helps but does not resolve anger. Find ways to channel your feelings into constructive action (perhaps so others might not be subject to what you are going through). You must take action to get at the specific cause and resolve it by obtaining the needed information, confronting the source, and/or forgiving.

7. Forgiveness is what will free you from the emotional and physical energy drain of anger. It is often difficult to muster, but it is the biggest gift you can give to yourself as you forgive the other. You are not condoning by forgiving, nor will it remove your anger immediately; it will take time for your heart to follow your head.  However, your act of forgiveness will boost your health in the long run, reduce anxiety, and lift self-esteem.

To recap. Anger takes a deep physiological and emotional toll. Yet, it is a normal emotion when someone is deprived of what is valued. And, it camouflages other emotions. Above all, it tends to isolate a mourner from inner peace and the people who can help the most when grieving.

It takes courage and conviction to see your anger as a useful emotion that can lead you to better self-understanding. But you can choose to grow through your courageous decision to forgive. Keep in mind Gandhi’s famous statement: “Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

Dr. LaGrand is a grief counselor and the author of eight books, the most recent, the popular Love Lives On: Learning from the Extraordinary Encounters of the Bereaved. He is known world-wide for his research on the Extraordinary Experiences of the bereaved (after-death communication phenomena) and is one of the founders of Hospice of the St. Lawrence Valley, Inc. His free monthly ezine website is http://www.extraordinarygriefexperiences.com/.

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Lou_LaGrand

 

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