Remembering a loved one: 9 September victims
Remembering a loved one: 11 September victims
When a loved one has died we do not forget them. The memory of that person stays with us forever.
When a loved one has died in an accident the time it takes to get over the death is longer than if that person died of old age.
Today is 11 September and today I am thinking of the families of the victims who died 10 years ago today. On the internet there is much controversy about what happened on 11 September 2001 and who did what. There isn’t so much about the people who actually died and their families, so today I want you to know that if you lost a loved one in that tragic event, you are in my thoughts.
Remembering a loved one: 11 September victims
As part of the grieving process it is important to talk about the person who has died because this helps to keep the memories of them real. It stops that person becoming either forgotten or idolised, remembered only for the things we didn’t do for them, for our regrets. In remembering a loved one, we remember the good and the bad things about them. The memories are more balanced, more real. It is good just to refer to them in general conversation with other people, as you would another member of the family.
Not only is this a good thing in itself, it is also reassuring to children as they understand that the loved one is not forgotten. It allows them to know that dying is part of the life cycle, and that remembering a loved one is part of that because it is through our memories that that person lives on.
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